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 Posted - 17 Sep 2005 : 20:43:50
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I know I haven't been around much, my boss has been making a few of us work some serious overtime. (My last check had 125 hrs on it for 2 weeks....that's a whole weeks worth of overtime!!!!!) My boss is a jerk, and I have compared him to Ecklie on a few occasions, but something happened yesterday to make me wish Ecklie was my boss, and I had never heard of Robert.
Yesterday morning, a co-worker of mine, and a very good friend for the past couple of years was shot and killed by her boyfriend, who then killed himself. The police contacted our work, who then had certain people come in so they could be told about it as a group, and also before find out through the gossip mills. Unfortunately, said idiot of a boss had already ran his mouth off and 2 of the people already knew, having received phone calls from other employees. The group gathered made no sense. We were supposed to be her closest friends, but there were people there who could be barely civil with my friend, people who barely knew her, and people that should have been there, who weren't. When the moment finally came for Robert to inform those of us who weren't already told over the phone, I had to ask him to repeat himself, then ask who he was talking about. That's right, a big announcement like that, and he not only just dropped it on us, in a very unfeeling way to begin with, but he got her name wrong. Not once, not even twice, but after I had asked him who he was talking about, another person joined us who hadn't been told, and he bent down to tell her, and messed up my friend's name again. It's not a hard name, and he had known her for months. They talked on the phone all the time, and he couldn't even tell us who had been murdered correctly. Her name isn't Bonney Rae, it's Brandy Rae Bonney. I can't picture how someone could mess up a moment like that, and just continue as if nothing had happened. He's a jerk, and I cant imagine that Ecklie could have messed that moment up any worse.
He did a lot more that was wrong yesterday, and today. Even though it's still 20 minutes before I have to be to work, he's already managed to upset me again, and that was almost 2 hours ago. Sorry to take up your time, but I had to get it off my chest somehow before I spoke to him again, but I don't have the time to write how he messed up even more after that. I have no doubt that if I am late today, the unfeeling jerk will fire me. Once again, I apologize.
Jennifer
~For one of my best friends....Brandy Rae Bonney, my prayers are with her parents, brother, grandmother, and, most especially, her daughter.
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rosietherivter
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Posted - 17 Sep 2005 : 20:52:55
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death comes in three so hang in there.
does you boss have a HEARING PROBLEM....or was in a such a shock state? ok he's a jerk. if he really had NO feelings for her it's was just another thing for him to deal with getting a replacement. also, it might have been HIS way of dealing with it....his mind was short circuitung. death and especially a shocker like that one causes people to do and act in unual ways. i'm NOT saying he was right..... i think that he should have called each of you at home and told you rather then calling you in. UNLESS he did it right before a shift (call a meeting) then....would work have gotten done...probably not. he's thinking like a manager and not a friend.
it's too bad she didn't see the warning signs for the jerk of a boyfriend and gotten out of the situation before...those kind of things take a while to brew. sad.....one hit she should have been gone, that posseive...get out... sad sad.
try and remember her smileing and happy and if she was a good friend keep her wee one's memory of her happy...if she's too small....let her know her mom thru you.
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Posted - 17 Sep 2005 : 20:54:19
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omg, thats terrible...
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Posted - 17 Sep 2005 : 21:11:12
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This is so horrible- what a jerk-face your boss is[:(!]hang tough- sorry- to hear this[:(]
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Posted - 17 Sep 2005 : 21:32:44
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Sorry to hear about your friend, and the way your boss dealt with the situation - not very professional at all. Perahps he felt very awkward in the situation - i know i would - and therefore made the way he dealt with it come across worse. Anyway, it's a great shame.
ps, i can't beleive 125 hours in 2 weeks. I'm part time and the most i've fone is 40 in 1 week. Even that seemed a lot
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Posted - 17 Sep 2005 : 21:47:03
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I am so sorry to hear about your friend!
If there is any occations you need to weigh your words, and really act 'propper' to the situation (Sorry - english is not my native language) it is in situations like this. Your boss did not show good leadership in this situation!
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Posted - 17 Sep 2005 : 21:49:15
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thats horrible...thoughts and prayers to everyone involved..(except Robert)
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Posted - 17 Sep 2005 : 22:31:49
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I am so sorry for your loss. I know that some people who act insensitive can ruin the situation, but I'm sure your friend is looking down, feeling proud that you all cared enough to defend her honor to your boss.
 
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Posted - 18 Sep 2005 : 08:28:25
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(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( hugs )))))))))))))))))))))))))))
I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend hun and the way you had to hear about it.
Don't worry about venting your feelings, we've all done that sooner or later and it's okay with us. We are here for you.
Take care hun [:X][:X][:X][:X][:X]
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Posted - 18 Sep 2005 : 12:21:52
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I would have thought that he was possibly upset, except that he made the mistake too many times. On top of that, he straight out told us that we were not allowed to inform anyone else, or even talk about it until he had personally come to our different locations and informed people himself. He didn't even take into consideration that we knew her better, and knew who her friends were, and who should be told before work, since he had us come in about an hour and a half before some of us had to start. I had to fight him to be allowed to call someone I knew HAD to know immediately.
To add insult to injury, one of managers came in with our weekly newletter and schedule today, and the very first item on it is about her death, and he messed her name up again. I hadn't realized that one of my employees hadn't been at work the night before, and didn't know. He also hadn't caught on to some of the conversations going on around him. It was partially my fault for not realizing, but he read the newsletter, then looked up and wanted to know who "Brandy Bonney" was. I had to tell him it was Brandy Rae, and he stood in my office while I told him the details, then slammed the door to the locker room behind him as he went in there. My heart has been breaking ever since I heard, but when he came out, and cried on my shoulder, it shattered. A grown man of 27, father of 5, and a 'tough guy' and he had to hear that way, then broke down and bawled. My boss is a jerk.......I'm sorry if my posts aren't very fluid.......I can hardle think straight from sorrow and anger combined.
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rosietherivter
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Posted - 18 Sep 2005 : 12:32:53
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blow off all you need to
we understand.
and i think that young man you talked about is wonderful. he is in touch with his feelings and that's rare in a man these days.
i would ask the newletter to print a correction along with a picture if they could so people would better know whom it is.
maybe everyone getting together to raise an education fund for the little one that can be put in an account to draw some interest for her future.
i think that would please your friend greatly.
still trying to think of something to say about the boyfriend...what a jerk...not man enough to deal with the word NO.
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Posted - 19 Sep 2005 : 13:57:23
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Posted - 19 Sep 2005 : 14:14:48
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omg i am so sorry for you
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Posted - 19 Sep 2005 : 15:41:07
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I'm so sorry to hear that.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and her family.
Old loves they die hard
Old lies they die harder
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Posted - 19 Sep 2005 : 18:24:01
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my thoughts are with you. (((((hug)))) from over the seas. rosies idea sounds like a good one. we will never understand what makes another person act / do or say the things they do, some people are beyond comprehension.
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Posted - 19 Sep 2005 : 20:53:21
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3 day
case closed
hugs across the seas
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